I want to work on complimenting other men more! Specifically my goal is to compliment people on things they clearly worked hard on or put in effort, cause it sucks if you work super hard or care about something and then don’t feel like anyone notices.

So I’m going to try and compliment people who:

Have really well done and unique tattoos

Are older but super athletic (It’s harder and more thankless, since when you’re young and athletic you’re usually in sports and get lots of praise. At least that was my experience)

Have super sharp outfits

Have really nice shoes (nice shoes are expensive and keeping them clean is legit hard)

what are other good compliments we should give each other?

EDIT: Oh and I still remember when I got a compliment on what I was getting while grocery shopping. So if I see like real good food in there I’ll try to throw out a “looks like you’re cooking up some good stuff”

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    Anything. Literally anything. The only time I get noticed is when someone needs something from me. I define my existence by how useful I am to others because that’s the only time I’ve ever felt wanted. I hate it, but it’s better than being completely ignored (which has happened many times in my life).

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      May I compliment you on your grammar and punctuation?

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      I see the word commission in a lot of your art posts. Do you draw? It’s good stuff.

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        No, see the text of the post. I’m linking to other people’s stuff.

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      I’m in this comment and I don’t like it.

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      Same. I might as well be invisible until someone needs help with something. I get compliments at work sometimes but it’s all related to my being competent enough to do something they need.

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      I got a couple escorts who would like to talk to you

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          There’s a story that pops up time and again on forums about men buying time with escorts but not having sex with them. They have dinner or something, then she just listens to him. Idk if it’s true or not, I’ve never heard of it irl. It’s like therapy with a hot woman.

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            It was a plot point in series 3 of Auf Wiedersehen, Pet, for what it’s worth

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          Nounless you think it’s shameful to use their services

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      This is the best response. So apropos to too many of us!

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    I like when other men compliment my penis.

    Just a causal ’Nice dick bro’ when I’m wearing my nice gray sweats.

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    To answer honestly, probably that someone enjoys having me around

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      That would do wonders for my repressed lack of self esteem, and certainty that everyone hates me

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    Genuine compliments on personality are always cool. Like, “you’re good at making people feel comfortable around you” or whatever. People often wonder what role they play in social situations, being told they’re doing good is nice. At least I appreciate it whenever it happens.

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    I put a bunch of effort into making my moustache curly, a bit like Dali. And recently I received a compliment from a dude for that. I really liked that.

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      Try raising a male chicken and going to France

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      said at the next piss stall over when all others are free

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    My personal favorite probably is compliments on when I have built/fixed something. It’s the skill I’m the most proud of.

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      This! Using my knowledge and practice to practical effect and being thanked for it is genuinely the best feeling! Even if it’s transactional, it’s still nice to feel like a job well done after all the years of effort and craft.

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    As a father, I’d like to hear how well I combine being an emotionally supportive dad while maintaining a demanding job and taking care of cooking, repairs and other stuff at home.

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      Hey - very much feel this one.

      It will likely come from your kids in the future, the validation doesn’t come from society. They get to a point where they recognise what you did and say thanks.

      You’re doing well, keep it up mate.

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      Good one. My kids are teens, so I’m always happy to hear anything about how well they grew up

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        Your kids are really nice human beings. You did well raising them!

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          Thank you. I’m so proud of them

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    I’m always ordering weird shirts off the internet. From like video games, Youtube channels, FOSS and general geeky fun stuff. About once or twice a year some total stranger will say “cool shirt! out of nowhere. That always makes me smile the rest of the day 😊

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    I was in Italy on vacation and a girl in a hotel reception said me and my girlfriend have really beautiful blue eyes. They are not used to blue eyes in Italy so much, but it felt very nice to get a compliment as a guy. I think I’ve rarely or never had compliments from strangers like that.

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      That woman probably felt safer to compliment you as well as your girlfriend because you were together. Sadly, guys in general get fewer compliments from girls than pop into the girls’ heads because they’re afraid of how the guy would react.

      Which is why it’s nice for OP to call on guys to compliment each other, and notice when they’ve put in effort.

      I’m going to add, “Great hair! And, “Those glasses really suit you!

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      I’m super jealous of your bottomless cash flow, mine’s pretty much only topless

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        With a name like “toomanypancakes” I was expecting you to have a muffin top.

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    I’m usually pretty happy to be recognized for my extreme dexterity.

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      Hey there, I saw you juggling while twirling a drumstick and just wanted to tell you I was really impressed by your dexterity

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        There can be too many pancakes?

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        Nonono, I spin a puppyhammer while doing the Melbourne shuffle!

        Last weekend I saw a dude juggling and riding a little cruiser skateboard though!

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    Praise for any genuine public service whether that’s being an EMT or just picking up a piece of trash. The world would probably be better off if we focused more on recognizing actions and less on superficial things like what clothes you can afford or physical appearance.

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      ooh. I would not get any compliments based on OP original criteria but could get some with yours. Honestly though compliments make me uncomfortable.

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          Im really not. Well usually. I can be caught off guard and actually my wife is good at that. It honestly makes me more rigid and ackward. I feel bashful is like a looser state of mind and body.