Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I’m wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.
I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don’t want to risk it.
Three things: one woman’s “hint” is another woman’s platonic behavior and “hints” are meant to be subtle so that they provide plausible deniability if there is no interest returned.
Dont blame us for not “getting” hints when part of the point is to be able to easily brush them off as not being signs of romantic interest. If you are interested in a dude, use your words.
And lastly, us not asking a woman out in response to her hints doesn’t necessarily mean we didn’t get the hints. It may just mean we aren’t interested in that particular person and dont want to make it awkward.
Also there’s a lot of flak in our society for men who overstep their bounds. Responding to a hint can also be harassing someone.
Let’s get to the point of clarity where the hint is recognized as the harassment.