• kernelleEnglish
    92 months ago
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    deal with your kid constantly wanting to use your phone

    They are being ‘needlessly judgemental’ about this line, you can fret over the importance of having 100% control over the device (which is weird to me as well but that’s besides the point), having your kid conditioned to constantly want your phone is what people are calling you out for.

    • sugar_in_your_teaEnglish
      32 months ago
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      Yup. My kids want mine, but it’s probably because I spend too much time on it as-is. So I’m trying to cut back.

      I never let my kids play with my phone though. That’s just a giant “nope” from me. Either they have their own and I trust them with it, or they don’t, there’s no in-between for me.

    • stonerbonerEnglish
      -22 months ago
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      I use my phone for work. My child sees me use my phone 8 hours a day. Of course she wants to use the thing she sees me use all the time. She loves taking pictures on our hikes and looking through the photo albums. This is completely normal and supervised.

      What’s weird is all the assumptions that I would let my kid have free rein on a smartphone, and assumptions as to how my child really enjoying using my phone is somehow a bad thing. We live in a not great part of town and having gps tracking, only mom/dad/grandparents as contacts, and other safety features makes my old-gen smartphone a good lifeline.

      Ya’ll are missing the forest for the trees with your assumptions.

      • kernelleEnglish
        22 months ago
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        Read your own words, you’d rather give your child a phone than deal with your child wanting yours. That is exactly what you said, no assumptions needed.

        • stonerbonerEnglish
          12 months ago
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          Yes, I’d rather teach them to responsibly use their own tool instead of them wanting mine, in a supervised way. So crazy, right?

          • kernelleEnglish
            12 months ago
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            Next time start with that instead of giving them a phone because that’s easier than dealing with the child, people might not get their knickers in a twist.

            • stonerbonerEnglish
              12 months ago
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              Any twisting ya’ll are doing is all by yourself. What I said is true, and if ya’ll need to fill in the blanks to fit your judgmental narratives, that’s not my problem.

              Maybe just stop being needlessly obfuscative or dogmatic and we could have avoided all of this 🤷‍♂️

              • kernelleEnglish
                12 months ago
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                You are fully aware ipad babies are a widespread phenomenon? Those people use that exact wording to justify doing so, you can blame people for throwing you under the bus alongside those people, but you also could’ve just worded that more carefully.

                • stonerbonerEnglish
                  02 months ago
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                  I clearly stated it was a supervised seven year old pretty early on, yet you just kept on about it as if I was some negligent parent lol. Not sure if it was you or the one of the other you’s in the thread who called me “dystopian” lmao.

                  Ya’ll could also reply with civility either way. I know it’s a lot to expect of people on the internet, but jeeze man. There are much better hills to die on

                  • kernelleEnglish
                    12 months ago
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                    I’m just telling you why people are taking your comment the wrong way. I’ve been nothing but respectful but man take it easy lmao