I figured a close stereotype for men, would be that they should all be farmers. The thing is, there are under two million farmers in the US as of 2023. So statistically, an equivalent occupation/role should have a larger number.

  • RiskableEnglish
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    Men shouldn’t be allowed near children that aren’t their own. It’s rarely stated but regularly assumed.

    • xmunk
      74 months ago
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      This one fucking sucks it’s especially awful for us beard havers.

      • Death_Equity
        124 months ago
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        I think it is more of the mustache only crowd that really faces a stigma about being good with kids.

      • Longpork3
        34 months ago
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        My daughter is a very different skin colour than me. Somehow the worst I’ve encountered to date is an uppity mother who thought I was telling off a random child.

    • waz
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      I think you were implying something different, but I feel like I get a ton of odd comments suggesting it’s weird for me to be out with my own kid. Things like “giving mom the day off? or “what happened to his mom?.

      I had friends complain about this kind of thing before I had kids and I thought that they were exaggerating. Nope, it’s all over the place. It’s certainly not everyone, but it is much more common than I expected.

      • exanime
        34 months ago
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        Things like “giving mom the day off? or “what happened to his mom?.

        I always hated the “are you babysitting?

        Like NO! These are my fucking kids, I don’t babysit them, I’m parenting

    • SurpriZe
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      I’m 33 and never seen this IRL. Weird. Only heard people mention it online. Must be that thing that doesn’t actually happen and is only perceived on the web.

      • exanime
        24 months ago
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        Must be that thing that doesn’t actually happen and is only perceived on the web.

        By all means, take your own experience into account but don’t fall for this fallacy

        By you own logic, murder must be a myth because it hasn’t happened to you

      • otp
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        It’s likely a cultural thing. I’ve noticed it in urban Canada, myself.

        A man smiling at a child who looks at him will get glares or weird looks from the parent. A woman smiling at a child who looks at her will be nothing out of the ordinary. The same man is “allowed” to smile at children if he’s with a woman and/or a kid of his own.

      • waz
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        Before I had a kid, I heard this was a thing, but didn’t really care as I didn’t really have a desire to be around kids. Once I became a father, I realized a lot of people make strange assumptions about men around small humans. Its certainly not most people, but definitely some, and definitely not just online.